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If the person who is bullying has a learning disability

It can be upsetting to find out that child you know has been involved in bullying behaviour. However, there are steps you can take to address the behaviour and improve the situation for everyone.

Bullying is never acceptable

  • If a child is being bullied, action must be taken. The fact that the child who is displaying the bullying behaviour has a learning disability does not change this, but it may affect how you approach it. 
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  • Children with learning disabilities all have their own personalities. Although some learning disabilities may have types of behaviour associated with them, a learning disability does not define the whole person.
  • Everyone can help how they behave. A learning disability is not an excuse for bullying behaviour.

Understanding the impact

  • Many people who display bullying behaviour are not aware of the impact their behaviour has. Encouraging empathy with the person who is being bullied can make a big difference.
  • 93% of children with learning disabilities are bullied. Some people may go on to copy this behaviour, or to take out their frustrations on other people. It is important to stop the cycle of bullying and make it clear that it is never acceptable.
  • Some children with learning disabilities may display challenging behaviour when they are unhappy, or when they feel they are not being listened to. Take time to talk to them about how they feel.
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Taking action

  • Explaining. In many cases, explaining that bullying behaviour is hurtful will make a big difference.
    How would you feel
  • Responsibility. Many young people with learning disabilities make very few choices about their lives. Make it clear that they are in control of their behaviour and can choose how to behave.
    Good choice, bad choice
  • Praise. Be sure to praise the young person for any improvements in their behaviour. It is important to learn that there are positive consequences of respectful behaviour.
  • Sanctions. Sometimes, you may decide to impose sanctions. However, it is important to be clear about why this action has been taken. It may be useful to ask the young person if they understand why they are being punished or having rewards removed. It should be made clear that it is the behaviour that is being punished and not the person.
  • Alternatives. Some young people with learning disabilities may find it difficult to control their outbursts. Offering alternatives may help. A space where a young person can go and shout or punch a pillow could provide an outlet for aggression without affecting other children. 
    Read a case study of a young person who has made progress in this way